Mental Health and Support

Mental health is a big thing but people know very less about it. As per Wiki article, it is the state of someone who is “functioning at a satisfactory level of emotional and behavioural adjustment”. But are we all functioning correctly? At one point or the other in life, everyone goes through an emotional rollercoaster and the intensity of these emotional things differ from person to person. Some people become strong as a rock and some become oversensitive.

As per the same Wiki article, Mental illnesses are more common than cancer, diabetes or heart disease. You may find the person next to you having some issues in their life. Some people show it clearly that they are facing issues, while some prefer to hide it. But if someone is hiding, it doesn’t mean that they are not suffering. It’s the worst thing about mental health – suffering and not able to share it. It’s like deep down inside you are hurting but not letting the outside world be aware of it.

Some people know to hide their true emotions because they choose to. Not everyone around them will understand that. But when that person comes to you to seek help, don’t shoo them away saying they are all fine and don’t need help. If someone approaches you, it’s because they trust you and you are the one they are falling back on to seek any suggestion and support. Try to understand their state of mind and help them get out of the state. They don’t need sympathy, they need support.

Never make fun of anyone who is emotionally low when they try to express it. You never know what they are going through and what may hurt them. If you can’t be of any help, at least don’t make things worse for the other person. Make yourself aware about mental illness to understand the state someone might be in and would need your help. Always be there for them in times of need. They deserve to smile and enjoy life to the fullest. And you can help them step into a happy world.


I’m starting to write again!

I’ve been away from writing lately due to work commitments. But it’s time that I get back to my writing days. A lot has changed in the past months like my age, my work timings, my work pressure and my weight. An increase in work pressure made me aware that I am messing up with my health. Work has been too much for me to take in these days that I have stopped being myself. It is a story of everyone who is working hard. We get so busy in our work that we forget who we really are and what we love to do. Writing was one thing which used to make me happy earlier and because of the increased work, I stopped writing. I was content that I was working hard to achieve my goals but somehow it didn’t make me happy because I felt that I was just working, working and working. In past of couple of months, I did have a lot of things in my mind I thought to write about but failed. I could frame sentences and paragraphs on those topics but somehow I couldn’t write. And whenever I decided to write them, I couldn’t recollect what I thought about. But now I have decided to write again and to be happy again. And eventually I plan to overcome my boredom that comes after I finish doing my work. Please don’t read this post like I’m complaining about my work. I love my work and give my 100% to it. I will continue to work hard and smart in order to achieve the goals I have. But at the same time, I want to promise myself that I will take some time out from the schedule to write about some topics as I used to do before. I am also planning to start writing tweets and start with my random photography again. Those were some things which used to give me happiness and I am going to get back to them all. For now, this is me, Aarti Khera, signing off with a promise to be back soon. And I just want to say that this blog might not reach a larger audience but that’s not my motive for writing these. I write them because it makes me happy. So it’s time to be happy again!

Women’s Day – Does it mean anything?

Today is Women’s Day and all girls are exchanging wishes with each other; along with that, all the men are sending generic pictures, gifs and messages to all the female contacts on their list. But what is the significance behind it?

On every March 8th, you will see there is special sale for women, everything will be decorated in pink, women would be treated in a good way everywhere and will receive special attention today. But my question is… why does this happen only on one day? Why do we need a set date to appreciate the women in life?

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BODY SHAMING & COLOURISM! – A new way of bullying?

In today’s world, we all have a right to speak anything we want but sometimes we overpower the right of someone else by passing comments about racism, body shaming, colourism – just to seem cool in front of others. Why? Do you even realize how the other person would feel by the comments you make? Will they be happy to receive all those hurtful comments from you? Think again!

Words are used for people based on their size, height or color. If you are dark, your nickname instantly becomes “kaalu/kaali”; if you are healthy, your nickname would be “motu/moti”, “haathi”, and all the fat things in the world; if you are short, you instantly become “chhotu/chhoti”; if you are skinny, they will start calling you “skeleton”. Who said their name is some stupid nickname that you gave them based on their appearance? They have been given a name at birth and you don’t really need to give them such “COOL” nicknames.

So where does this all start? No one learns this at birth, it all starts building up as a Continue reading “BODY SHAMING & COLOURISM! – A new way of bullying?”

Modern-day Relations – The Bitter Truth

If you Google the meaning of the word “relation”, you will get its definition as ‘the way in which two or more people or things are connected‘. But if we really talk about relations in today’s generation, we will all have different definitions for the same eight-letter word. This is because everyone has different expectations and experiences for them and this post describes about some of those in brief.

Relations are of following types in general and have specific traits associated to them: Friends – Friendship, Boyfriend/Girlfriend – Commitment, Relatives – Family Relation, and Colleagues – Work Relation.

Now the above gives us an idea about the types of relations we all carry in our lives but do you know what these relationships hold for us in today’s world? Don’t you agree that the relations these days have lost personal touch, all thanks to social media and ego. Let’s discuss how the above relations have become nowadays.

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Goa is calling!

This post is about my Goa visit. It’s almost going to be a month of my visit so thought of sharing the experience I had.
Day 1 Monday: Airport and Hotel

We had booked an AirAsia flight to Goa from Bangalore. Booked 3 tickets but seats were not allotted together. On top of that, in order to reserve a seat, they were charging extra money. I didn’t know that to book your seat in a flight, you need to pay money. Never have I ever paid it before. Thankfully, on the flight, someone offered me the window seat and honestly, it made me feel so special and happy. Sitting on the window seat I clicked a lot of pictures of the clouds and it was a calm view. I could also see the Sun as we landed around Sunset time.

After landing in Goa, we took a cab from Goa airport to our hotel in Colva. Drive was superb, it was dark outside but South Goa is a very calm, silent place – away from the busy city life.
Day 2 Tuesday: Old Goa, Panaji, Dona Paula

Next morning, we woke up early and went to the beach for a morning walk and it was lovely sight. On our way back to hotel, we had a coffee with nice beach view. *true bliss*

We didn’t take any package to visit Goa because we wanted to see specific places hence we hired a taxi and went to Old Goa church, went to Continue reading “Goa is calling!”

Life @ Mumbai & now Bangalore!!!

I came to Bangalore one year ago and this is what I wrote about the part of my life I spent in Mumbai:

“Was 16 when I came here, just like a normal teenager, had big dreams about life in Mumbai and now going away when I’m 21 years and 9 months old. They rightly say that “Mumbai is a city of dreams” as many things got fulfilled here. Completed my 12th, graduation, first job, driving license, passport, international visit; so many things in 5 and a half years. 5 and a half years seems like a long time but for me it is like lifetime.

Came from India Gate to Gateway of India. From 011 to 022. From Chandni Chowk to Khao Gali. From mountains to beaches. From golgappa to panipuri. From cholle bhatura to vada pav. Made so many friends, learnt lessons in life, laughed, cried, fought, left friends, became strong, got rid of selfish people, made friends for life, found soulmates, got attached to work life. Now leaving this city and feeling nostalgic about the time spent here. I can’t rewind the time but at least I am taking all the beautiful memories with me for life. Time spent at work was fun too; so many parties, so much work, so much masti, taking calls, training batches, supporting teams; everything comes in a flashback today and got tears in my eyes. Goodbye Mumbai, aamchi Mumbai. Will come back soon. Do miss me.
From a Delhiite-Mumbaikar-Bangalorean, Aarti Khera”

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Love is everywhere, just need to believe!

Valentine’s Day is around the corner and couples would be so excited to celebrate it in their own ways. But what about others? Some would be happy that they may get to meet someone new, some would be sad that they don’t have anyone to celebrate this day with. But do you think that we all need to be in a relationship to enjoy this day of love?

Well, the answer is no. It’s human nature that we don’t value what we already have in life and always want more and more. But what if the things we don’t value are the best things for us? We often realize the importance of what we have when we lose it, when it becomes past. Why wait for it to become “past” of our life when we can value it when it’s a “part” of our life?

Valentine’s day is not called a lover’s day. It is called the ‘day of love’ and love has no standard definition that it has to be there only when you’re Continue reading “Love is everywhere, just need to believe!”

New Year brings new days ahead? Really?

It’s the first day of the year 2017 and here I am wishing all of you a very Happy New Year. But one question that always comes up to my mind is… what’s so special about New Year? What makes it so special that everyone starts making their ‘New Year Resolutions’ and also start wishing everyone in their friend list even though, on the other days of the year, they don’t talk to them at all?

It’s just like any other year that comes and goes away in 365/366 days. But a few people make it Continue reading “New Year brings new days ahead? Really?”